Consider this usual
My name is Ashok, working
for Global Landscape, as an Asia Pacific-HR.
My name is Vani, and I am
It’s become an unconscious
speech, that we introduce our role, that we carry in our work or other spaces.
It is as though our name and who “we” are , has not got enough significance,
and that there is a strong
urge to tell what we “do”, therefore we add where and what role, title, position, we carry-into our work. Otherwise, we are nobody.
Last week, I bumped into
an old friend, Jineesh, he looked so lost,
thin and spaced out. Over a cup of coffee, at a small cafe called “Finger
Fries”, he shared how he was now without a job. He spoke about the financial
vacuum, identity vacuum, and a social vacuum, that he felt. I could feel his
loss, pain and diffidence in comparison to how he was
in his factory 18 months ago, when I worked with his colleagues on a Coaching
When I left him, it made
me think, at several levels we believe that the roles that we play, the career
which we choose, and the social perception of us- is Me!
Like my Guru says “If a
monkey sits on a tree, will it become a monkey tree? Or a crow sits on a car, will it become a crow car?”.
This realisation surfaced,
that we can draw a boundary to the roles we play and hold a reasonable
Just because I wear a hat, I don’t become that person. It is useful to remember
that it is a hat I choose to wear and I can remove it and become Jineesh again.
As long as I wear that
hat, I can be true to my role, once I take of that hat, I am free to wear
another color, size or shape, of hat I choose, but I do not become that hat.
In a person’s life, there
are several roles that we play, the question to ask is “Am I doing justice to
all the roles?” Am I happy and satisfied with the value and quality of the
roles I play? .
For a deeper understanding
, let’s look at the Wheel of life and the roles I play.
Wheel of Life
If the centre is zero, and
the outermost circumference is 10, as a rating.
How much would I rate myself in
terms of self satisfaction. O is the lowest, and 10 is the highest.
Sample - Marked with rating
This will reflect an image
of the several roles I play and where I am , in relation to my satisfaction.
What more can I do to be more robust and happy as a person?.
We need to move beyond
affiliation with roles, and look at assimilation as a focus. The most powerful
benefit would be that we have a holistic view of myself instead of a narrow pin
Food for thought indeed.
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